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Divorce…

kick him in the balls!!!!!!!!

beat the crapp outa him!

Ouch!

Reload the 12 Gage!

kick him outta the house lol

well, i would start looking too.

i would laugh in his face and call him pathetic(:
acually i would say if you arent happy with me grow some balls and split up with me already.

if hes doing things behind your back like this, you just have to leave him

Omg. I know you said besides leaving him, BUT, …..LEAVE HIM.

I would confront him about it and see if this is something that can be worked out

I’m a married man and I get a good laugh at the desperate women (and men) from online dating sites and personals.

I would bean him with a pillow, scream at him, throw stuff on the floor, and leave at least for the night. I might leave forever depending on how serious he was on getting me back. And I would be angry and hurt for a long, long time.

i would take to him. maybe hes lOnElY

hope that he has a single brother or sister that he’s trying to help find a date for.

I would confront him and ask before I came to any harsh conclusions.

Sorry to tell you that my husband did that, and he had to leave. I am getting a divorce because he kept going from one to the other.

kill da nigga or break up lol but forreal

castration. I guarantee no other women would want him after that.

Divorce…

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id be like hunny, i no whats goin on here. get a life.

Speaking from the perspective of the guy, I’d say confront him. But have the proof obviously. Ask him what the deal is.

some of the dating sites are pop ups so be careful you might be wrong.

it apparently is trust and you dont’ that is what main thing for loving a person. hes not very good and hes doing all these things to get away from you i would leave him and find me another person more to my way of thinking you cant’ make a guy love you and you can’t make someone want to be with you if you dont’ ahve kids yet i would get moving and if you have kids he can pay support. surely he wont’ want to but its best to have that then him doing stuff behind your back sure he should have privacy but with his disregard for you i am thinking hey you have ot watch him and iw ouldnt take it.

Do one of those at-home vasectomy treatments. It will work like a charm =)

Leave his ass because he was cheating

Lots of guys look at porn. That wouldn’t really bother me. BUT- talking to other women is for sure a threat - and I would leave him in a minute. It might be a violation of his privacy - but then - once I’m gone - he can have all the privacy he wants.

Oh - and print out the proof - so he can’t delete it and say you are crazy.

umm, thats pretty messed up. I would hypothetically leave him if he’s looking for someone else.

All I have to do is give him that look…and he knows his azz is in trouble…..

I’ve already lived thru it for a few years and we went thru a lot of cable modems because I would constantly smash them.

I smashed the monitor once, then instead of costing myself more money I just decided to bring the computer in our bedroom. I also taught myself how to find the evidence even if he deleted it and formatted the hard drive.

I was obsessed for years and he finally learned he will always get caught and just stopped…..

Don’t ignore it. Privacy is one thing but he is violating the trust in your marriage.

well, i couldnt leave my man for anything, but if he was doing that, i would approach him, and tell him how i felt. if he really loves you, then he will stop. if he says its an invasion of his privacy, truthfully, when ur in a relationship, he shoudl tell u everything, and u should tell him everything, no secrets.

my parents do it all the time . they think its funny to see the ppl they went to high school with, still single, get matched up with them

Well, If you trust him, I would organize a trip together somewhere and talk calmly about it. Go to a special place, maybe your favorite restaurant…do something impulsive. Ask him what is going on and tell him how you feel. Joke around the fact that he is in an online dating site and try to discover why he is doing that.
Are you ignoring him?
Is your relationship on the rocks?
Can you still work it out?
Is it worth the effort?
Try to discover the reason why he is in those sites…
Im sure he wouldnt be there if there are better things in his life right now.

I would go with the what do they have that I don’t approach. If it turns out that it is an addiction I would try to get him help.
I would avoid the shot gun approach.

Discuss it with him, and then get rid of the computer.

Ask him that if he would watch the kids for you while you go out with the new guy you met on an online dating sight. (When he raises his eyebrows, just tell him you didn’t want to invade his privacy, but if he can do it, so can you.)

There is nothing wrong with him looking if he found you there, he might be checking out some of the girls he met or just curiosity.

I would probably wait until I had more evidence. Keep your eyes open and monitor his behavior. Check his cell phone (if he has one) while he is in the shower, etc. I know that sounds sneaky but in today’s world, I don’t trust anyone and I don’t think anyone else should either. You always have to look out for yourself and never let your guard down.

If you do choose to approach him after you have gained your evidence, do so with a calm voice. Don’t blame or attack him for anything at first. What I would do is say you were trying to find a website that you had found a hairstyle on a while back…you were searching through the history on the computer and came across these websites and were just concerned. Oh, and worse case scenereo…cry. Don’t get mad or yell, just cry. Always works.

I’d confront him with my knowledge and have a serious conversation with him about his pattern. . . the dating site, the online chats, the porn. And then I’d tell him that I am considering what it might be like without him and these concerns and how you are concerned about the status of your relationship. Depending on your relationship and how well you two communicate, I’d ask him to go to counseling with me so you two can work on the issues that you aren’t confronting and that are pulling you two apart in your marriage . . . him to the Internet and you to whatever you are doing to now look at the intimacy issues in your relationship.

Well, I would leave him, but you said that’s not an option. In that case, I would do whatever I could to become financially and emotionally independent of him so that I could leave him at some point in the future. Open a secret bank account and stash money away in there. Sharpen your job skills. Seek counseling for yourself to help you become emotionally independent of him. Make him wear a condom during sex and have yourself tested for STDs. That’s probably what I would do. Guys like that don’t change, so don’t even waste your time trying to change him. Just focus on yourself now.

It is possible to have an affair and not be physical. Anything that sucks up too much of his time and affection or that causes a wedge between the partners could be considered an affair. I assume you are asking this because you feel uncomfortable with it and not because you are proud of him. If you are not willing to leave him about an affair than what would you leave him about? You ask what would I do if my husband was cheating on line then the next breath you qualify that with I can’t leave him, but that is my answer!

get the internet taken off or you be the administrator of the computer with password protection so he can only log on when you are there. Also, have the computer moved to a position where it is easily viewed by anyone, especially you.

Well, first determine whether he is trying to actually meet the women or he is just looking at their pictures.
I can tell you from experience…when I got married, I still liked to look at pretty women, live or in photos, etc., but I knew I would not actually bust a move on them and try to be with them, because I was married. I know lots of married guys like that. They still have the eye, you know, but they don’t actually want to do anything.
All that changed when my wife cheated on me though. I am a proud guy, and it hurt me deeply. I became a cheater….and I eventually divorced her because I didn’t want to live like that. It is better to be an honest bachelor than a dishonest husband.

he is just checking to see if you put yourself on dating websites….sounds like you’re afraid he might find you up there

Fight with him remove ur frustrtaion i know how frustarting it is .

I would tell him I know he is looking at online dating sites and leave it at that. No threats are needed. If he doesnt stop looking at the on line dating sites, too bad for him.
I would start hoarding money in a hidden place somewhere he cannot find it. The reason for this is when he cheats on you and you leave him, you will need it to get out of the situation you are in.
I would make sure everything is out of your name, so when you leave him for cheating you will not be responsible for his bills.
Pay off all debt now before you leave.
Speak with a divorce attorney to decide how you can go about getting the biggest bang for your buck in case you decide to leave him for cheating.
If you think I am joking, I am not. Dont be naive. Plan, plan plan.

Do not assume he is looking to cheat.
Those dang dating sites have pop ups all over the place, and are often just another source of amateur porn pics.
I would speak to him about it though. If you have invaded his privacy to find out in the first place then I guess you have to come clean on that too.
I have reservations about how much privacy is appropriate between a married couple in the first place. Spouses should not hide things from each other - not healthy.

Confront him!! Honestly. This is why marriages fall apart isnt it…? Lack of communication!? He is your companion…best friend….partner….lover….you should be able to say, i know it is an invasion of your privacy, and I appologize, but we have a larger issue right now…blah blah blah internet dating….blah…if there is a problem lets talk about it. I love you…

I am not even married…I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years though, and husband or partner, you still need communication. We don’t have a contract keeping us together, it is simply the bond we have. Our honetly, and our communication.