Is It Unusual For A Husband To Be Protective Of His Privacy? Like Phones, Computers, etc?
This post was written by admin on January 9, 2009
Posted Under: Marriage Divorce
Posted Under: Marriage Divorce
hailesellase asked:
My husband used to leave his computer, phone, and email open. I made the mistake of looking through that stuff and found some things I didn’t like and called him out on it. Now he keeps everything locked up with passwords, etc. I ask him if he’s doing that because he doesn’t want me to find out what he’s doing. He says that he dosen’t want me going through his s*** all of the time. Should a wife always have access to these things?
My husband used to leave his computer, phone, and email open. I made the mistake of looking through that stuff and found some things I didn’t like and called him out on it. Now he keeps everything locked up with passwords, etc. I ask him if he’s doing that because he doesn’t want me to find out what he’s doing. He says that he dosen’t want me going through his s*** all of the time. Should a wife always have access to these things?
Reader Comments
No…unless he has something to hide. in which case it apparent he does.
Yes, you should have access to his things, just like he should of yours. Obviously, he’s hiding stuff from you. I’d go off on him again!
my husband and i trust each other, so it isn’t necessary to look through each others private stuff.
I have access to my husbands emails, myspace, and he has access to mine. Sounds like he might be trying to hide something…..
guess what, he is hiding stuff from you…no way should things be locked………I suggest you lock your stuff too…mine pulled this and I hacked into his phone…surprise he had girls numbers on it……….
A man (or woman) with nothing to hide, hides NOTHING.
I’d be suspicious.
if he is doing that then there is sth hidden but hope he is not upto bad bussiness
No, both of you have a right to privacy. You admitted you went through his things once which violated the trust he had given you. I would have done the same thing with the passwords etc.
This is crazy, a husband or a wife have a right to privacy. I have nothing to hide from him, but also do not feel the emails between my sister and myself are meant for me to read not him and the same for her husband. You do not have to share everything to be partners. You can still be your own person, good grief its email not the end of the world.
It may be annoying having someone go through your stuff, so I can understand why he might do some of what you are talking about. But he should not be paranoid like a 15 year old looking at porn on the family computer worried about mom walking in.
tell him to show you everything so your mind will be at ease then he can have his privacy back if he refuses then yes i’d say start saving in a secret bank acct. then divorce him
I have access to all of my husbands stuff as he does of mine…
Of course you only hide these things when you are doing things your spouse wouldn’t approve of.
Of course, if he’s got something to hide. He wants to freely do his dirt without you putting him on blast.
I have been there done that! It doesnt seem like he has anything to hide, since he first left everything open, knowing you could happen upon it at anytime. I find its better that you give them their privacy, they share everything with you and it might the only way for him to feel like he has something of his own! Its just his email. It doesnt mean he is cheating. Sounds like there are trust issues with you and the way I learned to deal with it is just to try to trust him give him his space, but also communicate how you feel to him. I know that there is nothing that a man hates more is people going through his private stuff even if its his wife.
Say to him….’I know you have your privacy, but I just want to know few things , firstly are you hiding porn? Are you talking to women? Are you cheating? If no to all of them, then I don’t give a damn.’